Be your own biggest competitor. If you can handle failure, you are ready for success.

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20. March 2016 by swissfitchick

Comparison is the thief of joy. Best recipe for disaster and miserable.

I sound like a broken record when saying that, but it is one of the wise truth I kept telling myself during my recovery.

Photowalk Basel, March 2016

Photowalk Basel, March 2016

Basel

If you are willing to overlook my temper, hyperactivity and a scary past of criminal shenanigans, drugs and other abusive shit, I am pretty basic, relaxed and content. I’m fairly laid back, provided I get to deload my energy in training, keeping my brain cells alive with writing, 1-2 glasses of wine a week and my loved ones around me. Basic.

Given the fact that this wasn’t the case at all in my younger years, this feels even more enjoyable. I was my worst enemy, my own bully and I kept myself miserable by comparing everything to everyone. Being perfect was the only way to happiness, I thought. I lionised skinniness and being in control.

Golden Beach, Bulgaria, Fall 2003

Golden Beach, Bulgaria, Fall 2003

I have never been a bitch towards other women or friends based on envy or jealousy, I was just simply mad at myself when I felt like I can not keep up with the ones I thought had eaten perfection with a spoon. I wasn’t capable to regard myself with favour, I felt I need to be hard on myself and beat me up in order to make progress.

Lucie

This is bullshit.

Being a competitor at the CrossFit Games Open, I realise how important the mindset is, especially in a competition setting. I absolutely am my hardest self-critic, and I do never let myself be lazy, half-assed, non-consistent or selfish. I strive for hard work, mindfulness, empathy towards others and myself, and self-love. I go full-ass or I leave it – and I am always my friend, not my enemy.

Yet, there is a huge difference between keeping yourself accountable in what you do and what you are, in taking over responsibility and being reliable – and in beating yourself up and hating yourself because of failure or imperfection. BIG DIFFERENCE.

Streetart, Bondi Junction, Sydney, January 2015

Streetart, Bondi Junction, Sydney, January 2015

Flight out of Dublin towards London, September 2015

Flight out of Dublin towards London, September 2015

Comparing yourself with others in a positive way is possible if you take them as an inspiration. Stay yourself and take capabilities of others as a motivation to improve and to reach your goals. Don’t try to be them – stay yourself, always. Cause YOU are unique, you are perfect, just the way you are. You can always change your direction, destination, goals, mindset and attitude and the steps you take, but you can not change who you are. And that is extremely ok.

Beach House Costa del Sol, October 2015

Beach House Costa del Sol, October 2015

I am sick of people dragging themselves down, especially now at the Games Open. What’s the point? Except from looking unlovely cause of a miserable face and annoying everyone around by ranting and whining, there is none. Our performance will for sure not improve if we tell ourselves how weak and incapable we are – contrariwise, it will worsen. The only moment you may be upset about yourself is: If you want to be your best but do not do your best. If you are giving your all, that is all you can do and it is enough. If this gives the result you wished for or not, it does not matter – what matters is that you tried as hard as possible and keep up the work – so you deserve to be happy and give yourself a pat on your shoulder. Or have a glass of wine, cause that is how I like to reward myself.

Saturday Night out to celebrate my survival of 16.4

Saturday Night out to celebrate my survival of 16.4

Comparison also comes in handy, if you want to track your own progress. That is – I myself am my own biggest competitor. I do have an ego, oh yes I do, and I want to be a better version of myself than last year, than 10 years ago and then yesterday. I succeed, and sometimes I do not. It’s a journey and a process we need to trust in. Failure or slow progress is part of it. These are learnings we need, in order to become stronger – if you can handle failure, you are ready for success. Even in times of slow progress treat yourself with Love – it is the recipe for happiness.

I managed to provide myself with a second life by fighting for my recovery and by being free today from anxieties, drugs and the Eating Disorder. I also worked my squat ass off the past year to absolve a better performance at this year’s CrossFit Games Open. This season of the year is the point of time to realise where I want and need to work on in training AND my mindset. I am not free from struggles and you bet I was nervous before all the 4 Workouts until now.

My blonde partner in crime and I post 16.4 - happiness!

My blonde partner in crime and I post 16.4 – happiness!

Oh yes, I love to compete.

Oh yes, I love to compete.

Yet – stay down to Earth. Do not get obsessive, cause getting stuck in a thing that will take over your life may make you missing out on all the beautiful things life has in store. Also, being doggedly into something makes a grim face and that does not look pretty.

Relax, trust, and enjoy the process.

Think outside of the box sometimes and get OUT

Think outside of the box sometimes and get OUT

xxx,

Luce

14 thoughts on “Be your own biggest competitor. If you can handle failure, you are ready for success.

  1. “If you can handle failure your ready for success” I love that! Check my stuff out: https://aaronsbaldinit.wordpress.com/

  2. I really love this Lucie. I always love crossfit for the fact that I am competing against myself to be stronger. Most of the time I am able to react to this by being my own cheerleader, reviewing how far I have come and giving myself the awesome support I deserve.
    But with the open, my mind has wondered into my comparrison to others. There are a few scores I have been happy with, but then changed my mind once I have seen that others have done better. I would pick apart my performance and tried to work out ‘what went wrong’. Once I realised I was doing this though I knew it needed to stop. So with 16.4 I went in and became my own cheerleader and got my head in the game – the result, I did so much better than I expected and actually did better than many of those I compare myself against. Gotta take the pressure off and get my head in the game!

  3. I couldn’t agree more about being your own benchmark! As cliche as it sounds, comparison really is the thief of joy given how unique we each are. There’s always going to be someone better & stronger than ourselves but that doesn’t mean we can’t be better than we were yesterday. It’s amazing what a difference mentally it can make to stop worrying about how others are progressing and instead focus on becoming the best version of YOU!

  4. Your relaxed attitude about things is really inspiring! I’m still working on letting go of control and living in the moment, and I’d be thrilled if I could one day achieve your level of relaxedness. It’s also encouraging to know that that’s not something that came to you over night, and that you were probably very much still working on it when you were my age – gives me hope that I’ll get there somewhere along the line!

    • Oh it takes time, but as long as you keep working towards it, it will happen! Letting go off control isn’t easy, but once you make it, it feels so much lighter – everything!

  5. I think this is why I always love lifting – it’s just me against me. Not that I don’t also love looking at the dude next to me who’s lifting less… hahahaha! But it’s fun to see changes in my ability over time. And now I get to learn to do it without legs. Good times.

  6. “If you can handle failure, you’re ready for success.” -> I love this!! So very true.

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