Be courageous. Be confident. Face your Fears.

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24. July 2014 by swissfitchick

Last week, I met a very good friend of mine for lunch. He told me about a project he is involved in and how much he struggles with the decision to go for it or not. ‘Why do you doubt?’ I asked. ‘Cause I am so damn scared.’ Me: ‘Then you should do it.’

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I can not even count the situations when I struggled with fear. And I regret a few of them when fear stood in my way and kept me from doing something I actually wanted. The reason why I haven’t got a higher matriculation from school is fear. Yep, I might be blonde but I would have been bright enough to do it – I was just scared. The reason why I am not a professional saxophone player is fear. I was blessed with a musical talent that wanted to be challenged, but I was scared.

I had self-doubts.

Maybe because of the glasses :-)

Maybe because of the glasses🙂

I still have fears. Anxieties. Doubts. I guess pretty much everyone has them. But today I know that I have to do EXACTLY what scares me. Overcoming fears are the way for me to get confident with myself. To find out, what I am capable of. To drop the doubts and to feel proud.

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Travelling to the Philippines to do development work and travelling on my own for 3 months? I almost peed my pants. I had no freaking idea how I was supposed to live without power and water but with cockraches and geckos for WEEKS. I had no idea how I would manage to repair a school building and how to find my way around the islands on my travels. I went and faced every effing fear that came my way – there was no other choice anyway! I had the time of my life.

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Moving to Berlin to work with criminal young men for 7 months? As the only blonde Swiss female in a big group of guys who certainly liked to challenge my repartee and intelligence? I went for it. Me, a huge city and a job that was super challenging, difficult, emotional and men-dominated. I organised my travels, the job, my appartment there and my life in this huge city. I was scared to death, but I loved every minute of this adventure.

berlinA new adventure comes my way – Sydney. 6 weeks in this city on my own – and then 3-4 weeks of travelling to – I don’t know? California is on the list. I will be in a car. In the middle of Australia or California on my own. Holy shit. It will be hard – challenging – fun. And I know I won’t regret it for a second. It will add value to my life. It will boost my confidence even more. I will make wonderful, scary, maybe sad and fun memories. So worth it.

Crossfit. As much as I love it, as much it scares me. Why? I don’t really know. Failure? Not being as good as others? The presence of those self-doubts? Not being strong enough? To be belittled for being older than many others, a blonde chick, not skilled enough? Maybe. Plus the unknown. You never know what a Crossfit Class brings. It’s not your decision, you follow the coach. It’s such a challenge for me every single time, I push my limits or even cross them every single time. It’s hard, so it’s scary. I have huge respect of everyone who does Crossfit.

CrossfitMy biggest fear was letting go of my Eating Disorder. Anyone who struggles knows exactly how terrifying this is. An ED is a reliable ‘friend’ – so perfidious and sneaky yet always there. You can depend on an Eating Disorder in every situation. It won’t go away. Dangerous. The thought of letting go of this life-filling ‘friend/hobby/passion’ is scary. What happens then? What will fill this empty hole where the ED lived in?

Who am I without my Eating Disorder?

For a long time I couldn’t imagine living ED free, as I only knew my life WITH it. Besides the disordered behaviors there is so much emotional stuff behind an Eating Disorder that has to be faced, reflected and handled. It made me panic. As you know, it took me YEARS to finally let go of all those destroying habits and sorting out my emotional issues. It was the hardest thing for me to do to get ready living without this familiar ‘buddy’ on my side.

tumblr_lkk9tkZYOf1qek81jo1_500I know it’s not always easy, but don’t let fear stop you. Be confident. Be courageous. Be strong, cause you ARE. Fear doesn’t go away unless we face it and prove that black is white. You can do anything you want – see above – fear is nothing more than an obstacle that stands in the way of progress. It can take over our life and dominate our mindset letting us in self-doubts and anxiety. It can drive us crazy and make us believe that we are not capable of doing the things we want to. WRONG. You CAN do it. Take those fears, punch them in the face, then drop them and move on.

What was the biggest fear you overcame?

What do you want to do but are afraid of?

Did you wear glasses like me when you were a kid?

xxx

Lucie

18 thoughts on “Be courageous. Be confident. Face your Fears.

  1. stef says:

    xcactly what I needed to read this morning – thank you

  2. Lucie, I honestly reckon your vulnerability is a strength of yours- and something which deep down you thrive on. Saying that, it’s something to be proud of- so many people wouldn’t even THINK of doing half the things you do on a whim- out of fear. You have the fear. But also the strength.

    Now off my high horse ALONE IN AUSTRALIA? EXCUSE ME

    • Thank you my Dearest. It took me quite some time to realize that fear can drive me instead of stop me.

      Believe me Hunn, you will get sick of me sooner than you think🙂

      • cottercrunch says:

        i totally agree! it’s the fear that drives us to OVERCOME. Because we are more than that. The moment it stops you, the moment it wins. And we know you are not about letting fear control that. AMEN!

  3. Definitely know where you’re coming from with this lady! Fear was easily a huge part of me holding onto my disorder for so long – I was afraid to find out who I was without it. And I was afraid to approach situations without my ED as a crutch. But of course, life got a lot better once I got over that fear!

  4. This is such an incredible post – and shows why you are such an inspiration and fabulous person. CrossFit is also a fear of mine. I’m not sure my deepest or greatest fear. I think failure but I’m a little all over the place right now. But I do like to remember this: FEAR= Future Events Appearing Real.

  5. Bridget says:

    The biggest fear I have overcome was leaving my comfortable job to move closer to my family. Luckily I was able to find a new job rather quickly. Sometimes it’s important to take risks in life.

    • I can totally see that this was scary – taking risks can be terrifying. So glad you did it and realized how important it is to not let the fear stop you!

  6. You have some big balls.🙂

  7. Absolutely love this post, lady! And I have to tell you that you’re -such- an inspiration because not only do you talk the talk, but you actually walk the walk. I couldn’t even imagine taking off on my own to a strange place and trying to make things up as I go along… but you make it sound like something amazing!

  8. Katja says:

    I have been reading your blog for a while now, but never commented before….

    I wanted to tell you how much I love your encouragement, openness, honesty, etc. You are wonderful, and I am so happy for you, and “how far you have come”. Congratulations!

    I resonated especially well with this blog post – Fear! I am currently battling kind of a relapse from an ED that first appeared when I was a teenager (and I am your age now), and completely letting go of this “faithful companion”, overcoming the anxiety of what will happen then, is SCARY! But you are so right, it is so worth it, to take that “leap of faith”, and come out stronger at the end. Thank you again for your encouragement!

  9. You are amaze-balls pretty blonde lady. I reckon you could do anything you set your mind to. I am super impressed.

    When I went off to college, I left behind friends and family and went to a school where I knew no one. Long story short, I had the time of my life, and I met the Hubby there.

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