10. April 2014 by swissfitchick
The majority of you know me pretty well by now, some of my readers are close friends and know me even better – I am a very social person. Maybe I am even so social that it’s tiring. I just love being around people, I chat and laugh along like there’s no tomorrow and my days with a bad mood are rare. As much as I love my ME time and being on my own, I live of communication and you can as well call me a gregarious animal.
Socializing for me means being in good company, laughs, hugs, dancing, chilling, keeping silent, endless talks and whatever you love to do with friends/family – AND food. And in my case, prosecco. Not always, but often.
I read a lot about people who want to ‘stay on track’ and then struggle with being not spontaneous or ‘stuck up’ in their urge to be on top with their macros. I totally get it, if you have a goal, you want to keep up and you want to stay consistent. On the other hand, you want to be relaxed, social and you want your friends to love you and not to be told that you ‘could use some losening up’.
I know there are very different situations in each ones lives. Some have the freedom to plan their schedules and their meals and workouts – others have jobs or a family where it’s not that easy to just do their own thing. That’s one side. Then there is our mindset. Believe me, I missed thousands of social gatherings cause I was scared of the food there and that I would be forced to eat and drink. I rather stayed at home in my nutshell and eat light yogurts and rice cakes instead of facing all the anxieties and harassements of a social event. And having FUN.
Now here is my situation. I still have anxieties here and there, but they vanish more and more. But I also have goals – I want to be fit, healthy and in shape. I have a goal of reaching more muscle definition, which lacked BIG time in the last few weeks – seriously, March was completely soaked in alcohol and chocolate, so my muscles are somewhere where I can not see them right now 🙂 Of course I don’t like this, but I definitely preferred a BLAST of a March with my best social times, AND unfortunately I had to face real life which made it a bit difficult to be excited about broccoli and chicken.
So what now? I want to make an effort to be a little stricter and lean out more coming May and Summer. I know how to. And of course I would reach faster results if I would be strict like a wooden spoon, and if I would live sugarless and alcohol free day in day out. Do I want this? HELL NO!! Would my friends love it? Don’t dare to ask them. But there is a way to balance this out. Here are my tips and how I do it:
1. Relax. Don’t stress over your mealplan and workouts, just DO IT. Plan your days, prep your meals and workouts. And then forget about it. Don’t obsess over it, just go with it. You know what to do – and if you stick to it 80-90% then you are doing GOOD! And even if you have one or even two off-days, don’t stress over it. Forget it and move on.
2. If you are invited to a spontaneous dinner, go for it!! The more we lose spontaneity, the more we get obsessed, the more we stress ourselves = not good for our health and also not good for our metabolism. The majority of the time you will have the chance to pick out something healthy at a dinner or a buffet, and even if not – ONE not-clean meal won’t spoil your progress. There is ALWAYS a way to balance things out. You definitely won’t look any different the next day because of a night with some more carbs than usual and some wine. Wait, you do – you will probably wake up with a smile on your face cause you had a great night with friends.
3. IF you have anxieties when going out, try to prepare yourself. Check the menu of the restaurant online, so you know what to choose. If it is a party, offer to bring a healthy dish. Or just TALK to your friends. Tell them you want to stay on the ‘healthier’ way you chose and that you would love to add your contribution with a healthy dish. And especially, don’t stress over ‘what others think’ – you won’t be judged by what you eat as long as you are convinced about it and are realxed about it. And honestly? My friends definitely have other things to do and are busy with IMPORTANT things – watching me eating is not one of them.
4. Don’t hide. Of course, by now my friends know my perspective on food and exercising. As much as many of them tried to teach me to eat normal and to keep me from ovethinking everything – today they know they don’t have to worry and they can be sure that I know my stuff. Nobody ever tries to convince me to eat pizza, cause they know I don’t eat it. Because I was always honest. In the beginning, I just said:’ Look, pizza gives me anxieties. I am scared I fall into a binge. I will eat a proper meal, but I stick to a healthier choice.’ My honesty was appreciated and I got so much support like that. Of course it was always a little difficult, but they gave me the time to acclimatize with ‘unsafe foods’ and social events. I used to go to all the events, but left early, cause the anxieties started to get on me and I was exhausted after a few hours around all the food and drinks. I was always open about this and like that was supported and accepted. By now, I can be everywhere around all the food and it does not get me. I still make healthy choices, but I don’t obsess. I ENJOY.
5. Be convinced, be relaxed, be a good example.
I don’t explain what I do. I don’t preach. I do my thing – and I answer all the questions. Since I started my blog, many people around me ask me questions, want me to show them workouts or want me to cook for them. I feel so unbelievably blessed, cause I feel I can inspire people. And I am convinced about what I do. I know healthy food is delicious and working out makes happy feelings. And that’s what I share – but I never force anyone to do the same. I made huge steps forward in my recovery and I found a great way of eating and exercising that gives me my best results. But I am especially happy, cause I don’t let this dominate my life anymore. Yes, I follow my goals and I am strict about it – but only as long as it is enjoyable for me. And it is enjoyable cause I AM spontaneous and I don’t turn down any social activities – if they involve food and drinks or not. I found a way to balance it all out. I never explain why I choose grilled fish over pasta. Why should I? I love this meal and it serves my lifestyle and my results. I am relaxed about it and that is what my surroundment realizes. I cheer with prosecco and I bring along and eat chocolate – but I cook a clean meal for them all at the same time. It goes hand in hand. Based on my experience, there is ALWAYS a way to combine a healthy and clean lifestyle with social events that involve indulgements. Actually, my lifestyle IS healthy cause of the treats and the balance and the relaxation. I keep up a lean and fit figure wihtout any big weight fluctuations BECAUSE I allow myself to be spontaneous and sometimes trade white fish&asparagus with a liquid dinner of prosecco.
And now go. Enjoy life. Healthy and Happy.
What do YOU think about this topic?
How do you handle social events?