Love is old, Love is new, Love is all, Love is you.

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20. March 2014 by swissfitchick

I had 2 moments this week which made me think.

The first one was a really sad one – the wife of my personal trainer died 2 weeks ago and I went to her abdication. She was a personal trainer herself, only 51. It brought me down very much and I can not even start to say how sorry I feel for her husband and her family. He quoted her when she said:’ In the end, all what counts is Love. Everything else does not matter’. It still breaks my heart and brings tears to my eyes while I write this. LoveSource

And then I went to a lunch date with a good friend early this week, and she used the expression ‘the gate of acceptance’. We both have body image issues and we slowly come to the point, where we are capable to accept our bodies the way they are. We agreed that it is more like a tunnel, cause it does not happen overnight that you accept your body the way it is – it is a journey. acceptSource
Now what I realized after both these happenings is, that I want to remind myself and everyone out there about the importance of being grateful for a healthy body and for each day we are allowed to spend in this world. Most of my readers and including me have a healthy body, we can walk, smell, taste, see, listen, hug, kiss, smile, talk…..we can cook delicious food, we can cycle to work and we can workout. BenaI am the FIRST to know how difficult it is to be happy with my body and loving it the way it is. I am the first to know how easy it is to obsess over weight and appearance. I know exactly how a bad body image can turn into a black whole that sucks you in, gives you anxieties, panic attacks, depression and battles. Even when my father was seriously sick and then passed away I couldn’t get out of this cycle. So you see – I definitely know how strong and dominant an Eating Disorder can be.

But sometimes we have to open our eyes, wake up and put things into perspective. Let me give you mine:

I do Crossfit and weight lifting at the gym, I do Yoga and I run sometimes. I meditate daily. I eat clean and healthy foods 80-90% of the time – I prep my meals and I have a structure of my meals during the day. I do this cause it a) makes me feel good, b) is my passion c) is my education in my passion d) makes me look good. D. Yes. I also do this, cause I want to look good. I want to be able to see my muscles I work for and I want to fit into my clothes. I want to have a nice booty and a flat tummy and toned arms. I realize that I am 35 and it’s not very realistic that I will look like this forever, but I want to work for it. But my priority is about how I feel – this all makes me feel GOOD, strong, vital, light and energized –  and therefore every bit of this effort is absolutely worth it. CrossfitThe other side. I want to sleep in on weekends. I want to spend time with my friends and loved ones and not caring about a workout. I want to drink prosecco in ridiculous amounts sometimes and I want to eat a sweet treat daily. Sometimes I even want to eat Cheese Fondue followed by chocolate mousse. I want to have long and silly chats, deep and provoking talks, countless daily laughing fits and tons of breathtaking views in nature. I want to embrace life – every day, every minute. BenaThis is where I am today and I am happy with it. I don’t cut out foods I am not allergic to and I don’t miss out on social events cause I freak out over food. BUT I want to make a big effort in my healthy and fit lifestyle 90% of my time, cause this is what I enjoy doing just as much. My most important point is, that we all have a choice. How we want to live – it’s our decision. If I would want to be a Bikini Competitor, weighing my food and being aware of my macros would be a must – and that’s ok, cause I would have made this decision! If I have a layer of fat over my belly but am happy because I can eat cheese and crackers everyday, then that is ok too. If someone lives carefree and never exercises in life, then that’s another decision that is ok for that someone. As long as it is MY decision that makes ME happy. I am in charge, you are in charge. decisionSource

Though in the end, it is all about Love. Love for yourself, for your body, for nature and for the people around you. There is so much beauty around us, love, inspiration, hope, opportunities, chances, fun. YOU are the one who decides if you miss out on life or if you want to take part and enjoy it to the fullest – in a very YOU way, whatever way that may be. As long as it makes you happy go for it, own it – and don’t let anything or anyone stand in your way. Accept yourself the way you are, cause you are amazing.amazingSource

So whatever you do – do it with love and passion and enjoy every moment of it. Live today and be present. We never know what happens tomorrow.

xxx

Lucie

14 thoughts on “Love is old, Love is new, Love is all, Love is you.

  1. I’ve literally been sitting here for 10 minutes trying to come up with something to say, and I’m -still- having trouble wrapping my head around everything that I want to express. I adore this post, Lucie. Especially the part about having the power to decide how we want to live and what we want to spend our time on based on what’s important to us. At the end of the day, I think happiness is the key to a long and healthy life, and different things make different people happy. Each day we wake up to a world of countless possibilities — it’s mind-boggling to think how much we can accomplish in a day… why waste the opportunity by constantly being at war with ourselves?

    • cottercrunch says:

      wow! me too! I read and reread. Because i love your words lucie. and they filled me with peace. that’s how we should wake up. ready to love, live, and to accept!

  2. First and foremost, aside from the message of this post, I wish I were there with you right now to help you through this hard time. I know how rough it can be to lose someone, especially those you are close too. Death is such a horrible thing, but unfortunately it does happen – without our control. When we talked the other day, I couldn’t stay for long, but it truly did brighten my heart to hear how lovely the funeral was & now to read the quote her husband said… it just opens my eyes to exactly what you were describing. I’m so happy you were all surrounded by one another, because friends and loved ones are the most important part of life.

    Now onto your post. I’m honestly not share where to start, or what to even say. There were so many powerful quotes listed throughout your message that really had me thinking. We us people (esp. women), will continously try to live in our own bubble… not allowing anything in life to go different or inviting others in. Why do we do that? Do we think if we stick to just one way of life, we’ll be the happiest we could? The answer is no! Instead, we’ve missed out on so many other beautiful and fun opportunities that life has to offer. Also,why do we put the preasure on ourselves to be someone were not? To feel like we have to be a certain size, or run a certain amt. of miles a day? It’s the strangest thing, but since being told the other day (you know what im alking about) having to put on 10 lbs in this one month for IVF to be successful, I have felt so incredibly at peace with myself, life, lack of workouts, and eating everything in site. We need to stop focusing on the NOW moment someime, and do look at our future. I know people say live in the moment, but thats no always the case. Thanks for sharing this post, Lucie!!

    p.s. sorry if I went completely off topic. My hands just kept typing LOL

  3. Lucie- condolences for the loss of the wife of your personal trainer.

    Sometimes, it takes instances like this which really puts what we have, what we enjoy and how we treat OURSELVES- into perspective. I love the two sides of Lucie and think, whether you realise it or not- the last few weeks have really showcased the happy interaction of the two- one which is truly inspiring to see.

    Bravo. x

  4. I honestly don’t even know where to start with my comment – this is beautiful Lucie! It’s true – we are in charge of how we want to live our lives. Whether we want to become fitness competitors or are happy to use daily activities as our exercise, it is our decision, and we need to do what’s going to make us happy. Self acceptance and love is such a powerful, powerful thing.

  5. A great post! And especially on International Happiness Day!!

  6. calista says:

    Oh, my heavens. I needed this post today. Thank you thank you thank you. This post is so beautiful and perfect and exactly what I needed. In fact, I’m going to read it again!

  7. Ashley @MilesonOats says:

    Thank you for filling my heart to the brim with happiness and hope. Also, thank you for being so open and vulnerable with your readers, it’s inspirational and motivating for all of us to live a little more for US! Thank you for getting deep and being real. So many woman struggle with food, exercise, body image and thirsting for balance but feel like it’s impossible to achieve without sacrificing something else. You are living and breathing proof that balance and internal/external beauty is possible. Thank you❤

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  9. Tori says:

    I am a new reader to your blog and this is one of the most inspiring, motivational and true posts I’ve read!! I too have body/food issues and this post just makes pure sense! I am wondering how you started with lifting weights – did a trainer do a programme for you? Tori 🐝

  10. All I can say is a BIG cheers to this. You are in a beautiful place, my friend.🙂

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