13. February 2014 by swissfitchick
I know. I wrote a post about patience with the exact same title almost exactly a year ago. But I felt that I needed to adress this subject once again.
It is funny to read back and see how I struggled with patience back then. I gained so much experience and strength in the past year, but what I realized the most over and over again, is that to achieve something, you need to be patient. It is hard, I know, I get that – I hate being patient sometimes as well – especially when I have to wait until my food is ready 🙂
But seriously. Everything needs its time. We need time to grow up – nobody is born the way we are today. We learn, we fall, we raise, we win, we fall and we learn again. It takes time to accept things we can’t change and it takes time to make changes we can for the better.
It takes time to break habits, to gain self-confidence. It takes time to build muscles and strength, inside and out. It takes time to find out what diet is ideal for us and it takes time to handle anxieties and to build healthy habits in our daily lives.
The process of learning, doing steps forward, relapse, doing steps backward, getting up, moving forward, learning more etc. is where we make the most important experiences and learn the biggest lessons in life. I don’t know where I would stand today if I hadn’t gone through my Eating Disorder. Of course, I never wish myself or anyone out there this story, but my point is, that it taught me so many things in life I know today and which are so precious to me. And believe me, I had TONS of relapses setbacks, I made MANY mistakes along the road – we all do. What defines us is how we raise after falling and what we learn from defeat.
We sometimes compare ourselves with pepole who already achieved what we want to achieve. When I look at some girls at Crossfit, how agile, speedy, strong and confident they are in training, I get a little jealous and I have moments when I feel so weak and stupid. Or when I see women who are working on their bodies with exercising and clean eating and look so lean as I want to, I start to wonder why I am not there yet. Or when I see some girls handling food and exercise in complete calmness, I feel like a failure. Sometimes. But then I have to remember, that they once were beginners too. They went through the same process, they had setbacks and to be where they are tooday, they needed a lot of strength, endurance and trust but most of all, PATIENCE. Everyone is a beginner one day. If this is in cooking, running, living a healthy lifestyle, RECOVERING from a disorder, studying – you name it – we all have to begin at the very start.
If you suffered from an Eating Disorder for years, there is no way you will be recovered in 3 weeks. It’s the baby steps that count. One after the other. Count the success. Not the relapses. Relsapses will happen again and again, but focus on the days when you are one with yourself and no ED thoughts can bother you. Count the moments, when you enjoy food guilt-free or when you stepped out of your comfort zone. Count the days when you slapped a relapse in the face and stayed strong – and count the days when you took care of yourself after a relapse rather than beating yourself up even more.
The same goes with the lifestyle you want to lead. Leading a healthy lifestyle can be challenging if we are not used to. It takes time to find out how to organize it, what it actually means and to learn about food and the body. Our body. Cause everyone is different and sometimes we just need to experiment to find out what works best. Takes time and patience. Bit by bit, every day.
Whatever you do, whatever you are about to learn or whatever goal you want to achieve – ENJOY the process. Even if it’s hard on days and we are just about to quit – it’s the most important road in our lives. The moments we struggle the most are the ones we learn life lessons. Don’t give up!
Are you a patient person?
What was a big lesson you learned in life?
What is a goal you want to achieve?