5. December 2013 by swissfitchick
I planned this post a few weeks ago and finally got it written down. Though it is too long to post in one – so expect round #2 tomorrow!
When I read through my favorite blogs I see that I am the oldest here in the community – and I am totally fine with that. Of course, sometimes I wish I could go back and do things differently, but overall I am happy with my life and where I am today. I get often emails from women who are a bunch of years younger than me, asking me questions – and sometimes I am proud because I feel a bit like the big sister. By no means I want to sound snotty or condescending, because believe me – some of my younger blends seriously rock my socks off by their wisdom. Still, there are a few very important things about life I learned in these 35 1/2 years on this planet and I thought I want to share them with all my younger sisters 🙂
1. Take care of your body.
You might roll your eyes, thinking – yeah of course, we read a healthy living blog, so we know what this is all about. But believe me – I thought I was healthy until 2 years ago when I actually started with my journey in recovery and figured that I was not healthy AT ALL. I didn’t take care of my body, I binged, I starved, I swallowed dangerous pills and I overexercised. Only today when I am back in a healthy state (physically), I realize what torture I dragged my body through. Don’t forget that you have only ONE body, the one you live in. If it works properly then you’re lucky – because it’s not a matter of course. Never forget what damage can do in a long-term. Even if your body forgives you a lot of damage, it never forgets. Nourish it, move it, rest it, embrace it and love it – it carries you through all the shenanigans of life and it deserves the best care ever.
2. Own it.
Whatever you do – own it. If you decide to move to an other country, if you decide to live a healthy lifestyle, if you decide to be a stay at home Mom, if you want to dress a certain way and style or if you decide to run marathons – whatever we do, there will always be people who judge. Or even haters. I know that not everyone who is reading my blog likes what I say or do, and I know that probably tons of people on Facebook eliminated me from their list because I annoy them with my blog-babbling every day. But – so what? It’s what I love to do and I OWN it. Same goes with my healthy lifestyle – there are always people who think they need to tell me how disordered I still am. Maybe they’re right, maybe not, but in the end, it’s my life. I decide. Getting married, having kids? Don’t get me started on how many times I get asked when we will FINALLY plan our wedding and a family. Honestly? If people ask me because they care about me, then I am happy to explain them what is going on in my life and why. But if it is only for judgemental reasons then WTF? I do what is right for me. No need to worry about. So – don’t let anyone stress you out or put pressure on you – if it feels right for you then GO FOR IT! It’s your life, OWN it.
3. Take risks.
I’m not talking about risking your life in any way here.
I am an adventurous person and I am willing to take risks – most of the time. I did take a lot of risks in my life and I do not regret one of it. I went abroad to live and work in the Philippines for 3 months on my own…..
…both of these trips were super scary – huge country or city, not ONE person I knew there. No idea where I would live, nor how my job would be. But I wanted it so bad. I wanted to survive in the jungle on my own. I was homesick like crazy, I had crisis and struggles – but I had SO much fun, so MANY wonderful life-enhancing experiences and I grew stronger than ever before.
I quit my jobs several times, I started university social work studies with 29 years old, I went bungee jumping and skydiving and I left an unhappy relationship. Risks I took and changes I made of which I had no idea what the consequences would be like. Some were good, some maybe a little irrational – but all of them taught me so much about myself and strengthened my confidence in a positive way.
Sometimes you just have to take a risk. Changes can be scary and difficult, but they can lead us to great knowledge and maturing. There was a post about embracing changes just this week by one of my favorite blends, Kierston – worth a read! Don’t be scared – you are more capable of things than you can imagine!
4. Be silly, Dance. Laugh.
One day I might have children and when they turn into teens, they will be embarrassed by their mother. They will probably say:’ Mom, stop being so silly it’s SO weird! You’re too old.’ Really? I mean, I remember being terribly embarrassed by my Dad cause he used to be SO silly and always made really bad jokes about me. I hated it. Today, I think it was just really funny – and so healthy. He did not care at all how old he is. Both him and my Mom were silly and when we had a party at our house, they used to rock the dancefloor until the end. I felt awkward, but I was a teen.
Please never stop having fun or loving childish stuff just because you grow older. Aren’t humurous grand parents the best? See. It’s so refreshing. AND it keeps you agile and young. Yes, I can use that sentence. I will turn 40 in 5 years. EEK! Nevermind – no way I will stop dressing up in crazy costumes and sing along awful songs – with some prosecco in one hand and the BIGGEST smile (literally) on my face 🙂
What was the most important lesson life taught you?
Are you afraid of changes?
Biggest adventure you conquered?