21. March 2013 by swissfitchick
Another round of Thankful Thursday is taking place today. Hosted by my friend Jessie, who is back from her trip to the U.S.!
On Monday, I read a great post from Kierston at Candyfit about the Comparison Trap. It is such a great subject and I think it is so present in our world today.
I must say, that I am thankful that the comparison trap is far away today from what it used to be to me not long ago.
I was always comparing myself. Not only regarding workouts, body or food, also regarding my work, my clothes, how I do my household etc.I always found something or someone who was better than me or I found myself being lame or not good enough. Don’t get me wrong – that STILL happens a lot. But not as much as it used to. The times, when I am happy about what I do get more and more frequent. No matter what it is. If it is how I keep my appartment clean (which is clean and neat but compared to my Mom’s a huge mess) how I look (which is totally fine but compared to a zero size model I am probably fat) how I eat (which is much better than it used to be, but compared to others not disciplined/enough/healthy enough) – I could go on and on.
I do step into that trap here and there, but I realize it immediately. Sometimes, I take it as an inspiration, a motivation to change something that doesn’t make me happy. Something, that I see a other person is doing or is having that I wished for. I try to make his/her success my motivation and inspiration instead of beating myself up that I can not do it.
If it is something that I wish I had or were, but it won’t be possible to ever get it, I stop wishing for it. I smile at this person and am happy for her/him to have this specific thing and look at myself to tell myself, what I got. I am writing this now as if it was the easiest thing to do but I am the first who knows, that it’s not. But the more we get aware of it and try NOT to compare, the better we get at it.
There’s always something we got and others don’t and the other way round. We are individual and unique and that’s why the world is such an interesting place. Comparison makes you miserable. I, personally made that experience for years, I was always miserable because I could not see what I got or what I am capable to achieve. Today, if I dislike something on myself, I try to change it, if I can not change it, I accept it. This is difficult and hard, but it is the only possible way. We can not buy a new body or a new face or a talent. We have what we have but we can be the best version of ourselves.
That is what I want to achieve. To be the best version of myself. I am not there yet, but I get closer every day, I can absolutely feel it. Will I be perfect then? NO!! Do I want to be perfect?? No thanks. But I want to be happy about myself and this is the best version.
If you stop being envious, you will free yourself to match new goals and to do progress. Envy stops us from doing steps forward and gives us a bitter glance in our face. Envy goes hand in hand with judging. I am judged a lot, still. Many people create their opinions about how I live my life – and I don’t even know where they get the knowledge from, since they are not with me 24 hours. I don’t know what motivates people to judge others, but I can imagine that jealousy and envy are part of it.
Whatever – I want to be happy for others and I wish others to be happy for me. Prior to it all, I want to be happy with myself.
Do you step into the comparison trap sometimes?
I do, but not as much as in my past.
Tell me one thing about you that you know is beautiful or you’re good at!! No, TWO!! I want to read TWO!
I am quick-witted/quick at repartee, and I like my legs.