7. March 2013 by swissfitchick
Let’s think about a few things today we are thankful for. Before you read on, sit back – ponder – and pick 3 things you are thankful for in your life. It can be that you spotted a flower this morning on the way to work or that you look forward to a yummy breakfast, but maybe also that you have a wonderful family or that you are thankful to have a job and food. There is ALWAYS something we can be thankful for.
Thankful Thursday is hosted by my friend Jessie, who is very busy currently with studying and other things in life which makes the need of a little cut back on blogging. We need that once in a while – Blogging takes up a lot of time and sometimes we need to reset the priorities and go for what’s most important in life.
Anyway, I celebrate the tradition today. I am thankful for
These 2 things have been in my life, then they left or I made them leave and it took me YEARS to bring them at least partly back in my life. We need to love ourselves and we have to be proud on ourselves. Each one of us achieves things every day. It’s not necessary to achieve huge goals to show us some love or to be proud of ourselves. But the positivity of these 2 factors and the direction they lead our thoughts to, is so healing.
Look at me.
I had a STICKER on my right eye. And my socks are drawn up way too high and I am not very sure about the pants either. But do you get the message of the pic? ‘I am Lucie and I think I am fantastic’. I had no problem AT ALL with this terrible sticker on my eye and I was convinced, that I am a great person and that the world is richer because of me (ok, that might be a bit too much :-))
What I want to say is: Look at this girl. I tell it to myself so many times – look at the little Lucie-girl. Would you tell her, that she is ugly? Fat? Not good enough? Not perfect enough? Lame? Shabby? Nah. If she had self-doubts, if she were sad, if she would feel insecure, I would give her a hug. A HUG. Not words that beat her down and make her feel even worse. I would tell her, that she is amazing, and that emotions like this aren’t there to be ashamed of, but to reflect herself and to grow stronger.
Same with a friend. If a friend feels down, unmotivated or thinks she/he is not good enough, would you motivate the friend by saying things like:’ Well, of course you can’t do it. You don’t deserve it anyway.’ Or:’ Look at you. You are a lame duck and you can’t get anything right.’. NO!!! At least not me. I tell them, that they are wonderful, beautiful and adorable. That they achieve so many things every day. That they need to take little steps and that they came so far already. That they should not give up and that I will be there for them, ANYTIME. Above all: That they should be PROUD of themselves. That they should show themselves some self-love.
Isn’t it amazing how naturally it is to show love to others and be proud of them and how tough it can be to do the same to ourselves? At least for me. Isn’t it paradox, that we want to change something we don’t like and exactly BECAUSE we want to achieve that we NEED to first accept and love ourselves the way we are now?
I am having a hard time to be positive with myself, but I am doing way better than a few months or years ago. Since I build myself up with GOOD words, I feel and act so much better. My recovery makes progress, BECAUSE I am proud of myself and BECAUSE I tell myself that I deserve Love.
What helps me a lot, are 2 things. One is what I talked about above – I imagine, I am still the little girl. I act so much kinder if I allow myself to deserve pride and selflove. Besides that, it doesn’t mean, that we only deserve hugs, understanding, tolerance, pride and selflove when we are kids – we deserve it just as much when we are grown up men and women.
The other thing is, that I tell myself every night before I go to bed at least one thing I am proud of from that day. There is ALWAYS one thing. Even if I relapsed, if I overexercised, if I ate too many cookies, if I did not work hard enough, if I was sad all day, if I skipped meals – there is always something positive and great I achieved. For example, when I relapsed, I am proud, that I don’t fall in that huge hole anymore and that the intensity of the relapse is far from what it was in the past. If I was sad all day and ate cookies, I am proud, that I still did a good job at the office and had a good workout. In the morning, while my meditation, I tell myself a tiny goal I want to achieve for the day. Something small, that does not stress me out. If I can tell myself in the evening, that I did it, even better. If not, I try again tomorrow. No guilt, no beat, just Love and Pride.
So yesterday – I was very proud of my workout. I did my heavy lifting session with my trainer and he even sent me a message later to tell me that I did great, that was so motivating and made me really happy! And I got all the work done in the office I wanted.
My goal for today is, not to let me stress out of all the sugar treats we have in the office and which is a bit dangerous for me. I want to achieve, that I can be around ‘dangerous’ food without being scared and relapse. This is a big goal, so I am taking babysteps. AND – SMILE!!!
What are you proud of today?
Do you set mini-goals, for a day, a week, a month?